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Being an Introvert

I have come to the realization that being an introvert does not mean you have to stay that way.
With that being said, I do not think that you can ever fully become an extrovert if you were born an introvert, and here is why....


This past weekend I experience a couple of first in my life. Being a 20 year old college student, this may surprise you. I have never been to a party, and I also have never been to a bar/club (this one may not be so surprising since I am under 21). I experienced both of said things this past weekend.

When I was first talked into going to these two things I was very adamant that I was not going to have a good time and that I would be miserable. I had already made my mind up. There was going to be partying and alcohol and as an introvert both of those things were a no go on my list of things Id love to spend my weekend doing. But I did need to learn how to have fun. Just because there's a party, does not mean you have to drink at it, and hopefully you are at a party where no one made it a big deal if you did not and no one tried to make you, I know some parties are not that lucky.

I think in going to a party, depending on how introverted/extroverted you are, you just have to pick the right crowd and pick the right party. Obviously if you are introverted, do not go to a frat party, at first anyways. Luckily the party I attended had maybe max 10 people, if that. So it was pretty chill and showed me that just because it is called a party does not mean you can't have fun. I think it is definitely something I can't manage to do every week ( and will not ) but for special occasions, I do not think I will be so high strung about them anymore. Lets face it, no you do not have to go to every single party in college just to have friends, but making friends and having a bit of a social life in college is a huge part of it, and if a couple to a few parties a year, that you know will be in your area of introvertness is all you have to do, then have fun, I promise, as an introvert, you will not melt and die like I had originally thought. Taking baby steps is also important, like I said earlier, do not start with a huge frat party, find one small and start there. Make sure you are comfortable with where you are going and know that it is possible as an introvert to have fun!


The second thing I did this past weekend was go to a bar,  it was a drag queen bar. Now the drag queen part was my favorite, it was nothing too crazy, just a bunch of people there to watch these awesome performers. The dancing part with music and a DJ is what I found so hard to do and enjoy at first. No matter how hard I tried to make myself move, I just felt very reserved and very overwhelmed and couldn't do it to a point where I actually walked away and my amazing boyfriend came and reassured me that everything was okay and that all I had to do was just not think of what people were thinking, which is a lot easier said than done. Once I got back, him and his friends all showed me how to have fun and to dance and not care what anyone was thinking. I did end up having tons of fun. This is why I think an introvert can never fully become an extrovert because you will always need an extrovert to guide you along and help you, but if you do not have that around, then I feel as if its easy to resort back to being an introvert. This is why it is important to surround yourself with the right people when trying to branch out and try new things and I definitely lucked out and had a great group to be with.


Also, disclosure, you do not have to go to a bar or a party to test your level of fun-ness as an introvert, these are just what particularly tested me this weekend, coincidently.


So with that being said, no the bar life is not for me, but at least I have experienced it once and know that it is possible for me to have tons of fun with a group of people and for me to actually participate in the fun. Being an introvert doesn't have to be so bad, and it doesn't mean you are no fun. Go out and know that you will not wilt away in misery by having fun for once.




Sincerely , an introvert

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